purpose
Men aren’t born, they’re built!
Finding your purpose in life can help drive out the darkness that often comes with feeling lost. It’s essential for anyone who wants to improve themselves and make something worthwhile in their life. Your purpose is your ultimate destination; it’s the goal that connects your plans. Your purpose helps you define the path ahead of you.
There are millions of different avenues we can take in life, but we don’t have enough time to explore even a tiny fraction of what’s out there. That’s why we’ve got to be very specific, clear, and confident that what we’re spending our time working towards is what we truly want.
Figuring this out does take time and consistent effort, and if you’re anything like me (an average guy), then you’ll likely try a few different paths, realise they don’t really speak to you in a meaningful way, drop them and try the next potential option.
This process is necessary for gathering information about where you do and don’t want to go in your life. This is the first hurdle for anyone trying to make a meaningful and lasting change. It requires some fumbling around in the dark at the start before you know enough about yourself and about what life has to offer to be able to identify a meaningful purpose and map out a pathway to fulfilling that purpose.
Purpose
Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others.
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
Men aren’t born, they’re built!
“What do I want to do with my life?”
Unfortunately, this hurdle stops most men because, as men, we don’t like admitting that we have no fucking idea what we’re doing or where we’re going. It’s bloody uncomfortable and doesn’t make us feel particularly manly… So most men never figure out the answer to this question. They go through life with no clear direction, reacting to problems as they show up, constantly chasing their tales instead of proactively deciding “Who do I want to be?” and “What do I want to do with my life?”.
I’ve had men pay me thousands over the years for training and coaching, with a constant focus on purpose and life goals, but it’s not until I sit them down and slap them in the face with a notepad and pen that I get them to seriously think about this question!
Why is that? Because as men, we’re used to knowing the answer or how to get it, but answering this question requires a man to open himself up to failure. This is a question you can only gain the answer to from experience, and some of those experiences will likely hurt in the moment.
I understand why this probably doesn’t feel that appealing to you right now… and I can’t make you believe it’s worth the pain. All I can tell you is why I chose to do this in my life, and that’s because I think the alternative is worse. To live a life with no purpose, dull, unfulfilling jobs, drinking and comfort eating, and surrounding myself with people who are just as lost as me, eventually, getting old and realising too late that I could have done so much more. This is the greatest tragedy I can imagine.
“What do you regret the most?”
Don’t believe me? In 2017 Today interviewed 1500 people over 65 to ask them: “What do you regret the most?” The vast majority of answers involved regret towards what they didn’t do in their lives rather than any mistakes they had made. https://www.today.com/health/biggest-regrets-older-people-share-what-they-d-do-differently-t118918
This is the fate of people who don’t take the time to figure out what’s really important to them in life and what they need to do to live up to those standards. So if you don’t decide to join us here at The Unbreakable Man, please do one thing after visiting our page: start the journey to FIND YOUR PURPOSE. Your life’s journey can’t begin until you know where you’re going.
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