comradery
Men aren’t born, they’re built!
I believe the quality of our lives is a direct reflection of the depth and quality of our relationships.
I don’t think there is a single successful human alive that can’t attribute a part of their results in life to the support of the people they’ve had along the way and the support network they currently work within.
For men, comradery may be something even more profound than friendship. Comradery means we’ve been through the wringer together and helped each other overcome our challenges and face our demons. To me, comradery can only be created when two people struggle together.
The problem many men face today, and perhaps you can relate to this yourself, is that many men have their mates; the guys they drink with, maybe get their families together for BBQs or give each other a thumbs up on Facebook every now and again.
But do you have mates you sweat your ass off and push your physical limits with?
Do you have mates who have literally or metaphorically carried you and whom you’ve carried yourself?
Do you have mates you could reveal your most painful thoughts to?
Do you think your friends know who you really are at your core, and vice versa?
Comradery
Camaraderie doesn’t happen by accident; developing a strong sense of trust, accountability, and togetherness around team goals requires intentional effort. Don Yaeger
Men aren’t born, they’re built!
“True friends are people who don’t let you avoid the challenges”
Now I wouldn’t blame you if you found any of those questions confronting. I think most men would. Most men think, “I wouldn’t tell my mates about my darkest thoughts… And I don’t really want to push myself to the point where I’m gasping for air!”. If that’s where your head is at, then I get it. Neither of those things is pleasant, but sometimes life is suffering, and how much pain we can take will ultimately determine how far we go.
True friends are people who don’t let you avoid the challenges you need to get past to create the life you want, and they increase your capacity to contend with pain in your life by taking place by your side during those times.
I’m aware that that sounds pretty intense… Maybe you thought this would be about the benefits of hand holding and singing kumbaya! No, comradery amongst men is about building bonds of trust that allow you to know in your heart that this guy has your back no matter what. This level of support will enable men to perform at a level they never knew they could.
This is one of the reasons Unbreakable Man includes the Spartan in its logo. The Spartan symbolises comradery because without this deep trust forged throughout all the trials they had endured together, there’s no way 300 men could have stood against an entire Persian army and battled the way they did.
So for men who genuinely want to become the best they can be in physical & mental health, relationships, personal & professional success. I hope you can see how much of a difference it would make to be a part of a team of men who share these bonds of trust and a willingness to go the distance.
You may think that you could never be a part of a group like that, or that it’s a bit much for you, and for some people, it may very well be. But remember, this trust is built over time, and it’s not created by being a perfect teammate. It’s produced when the men you’re with can see you constantly trying your hardest. You will absolutely fail along the way, and that’s just another moment where trust is developed as your team helps you pick yourself up. Eventually, you’ll become a team member who can carry his own burden and help other new members carry theirs.
“We all need a support network”
Any man’s life will benefit from having a masculine support network like this around him. So if you’re a man who is genuinely aiming to be the best he can be, who isn’t willing to settle for the mundane anymore, start looking for a team like this. When you think you’ve found it and have reason to believe, it’s the team you’ve been looking for, allow yourself to accept the support offered and remember to repay the favour to those who join after you.
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